Will Happiness Come Again?

Why Complicate Life?

2012-01-21T21:06:00.000+08:00

Lean On My Shoulder When You Are Tired; I Will Be Here For You

2012-01-20T20:53:00.001+08:00

Saturday 14/01/12 - It is very hard to find someone that can grow old with you.

2012-01-14T13:14:00.000+08:00

Is it possible?

A True Soul Mate is a Mirror...

2012-01-01T11:57:00.000+08:00

“People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that's what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.

A true soul mate is probably the most important person you'll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave.

A soul mates purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life, then introduce you to your spiritual master...”

― Elizabeth Gilbert, Eat, Pray, Love

Taken from Quotes from Eat, Pray, Love

Sweet Proposal! Happily Ever After!

2011-12-30T09:45:00.000+08:00

So sweet... I hope I will be fortunate enough to experience that.

房祖名 & 龚芝怡 - 最好的我

2011-12-18T12:38:00.000+08:00

我不在乎什么天长地久
我只在乎你想不想要拥有
一颗真心和温暖的手
在身后陪你微笑或泪流
我不在乎你下次回来待多久
我只在乎这心动前所未有
我不会走 Coz I Love You So
想给你最好的我就算只是朋友
还想和你做朋友
想念 your big brown eyes
可爱的 lips I wanna kiss
I miss 想一直牵着你的手
但我还年轻心不定又能怎么办
Boy 有什么话开不了口
No worries 我只是用脑想过头
拥有了又想自由自由又想拥有
等待着空逛着有话别保留
他们说刮风的时候
你总选择要一个人颤抖
Guess You'll Never Know
Coz I'll Never Show
为了谁你不自由
想给你最好的我就算只是朋友
信不过别人把你追走
也信不过自己暂时把你拥有
你低头喝着酒别只顾喝着酒
做朋友是保护你最坏也是最好的藉口
我明白要你爱是荒谬的要求
我明白有些默契我必须要遵守
只是你眼眸走漏了一种
BABY BABY 想爱不能爱的哀愁
Hey 好久不见重记得你钟意听
不如不见记得以前和你分享我的担心
烦恼还有我的骄傲
但现在我们之间却变得越来越有礼貌
When we broke up
你的朋友一定拍手说好
现在你身边的他们大概都不喜欢我
但是我还是我我还一样地活
The reason why 我决定离开
There is Only One Reason
Why Coz I know you deserve better and more
没了我大家信不过的那个星座
你一定要好好生活别想太多
为什么我写了这首歌只想用心对你说
I love you and I still do I love you now
But It is just in a different way if I may
Hey Be sure I know you used to love me more (appreciate)
But now as a friend
我知道当我离开世界的那

陈奕迅 - 孤独患者

2011-12-17T12:33:00.000+08:00

欢笑声欢呼声
炒热气氛心却很冷
聚光灯是种蒙恩
我却不能喊等一等

我真佩服我还能幽默
掉眼泪时用笑掩过怕人看破顾虑好多
不谈寂寞我们就都快活

我不唱声嘶力竭的情歌
不表示没有心碎的时刻
我不曾摊开伤口任宰割愈合就无人晓得
我内心挫折
活像个孤独患者自我拉扯
外向的孤独患者有何不可

笑越大声越是残忍
挤满体温室温更冷
万一关灯空虚扰人
我却不能喊等一等

你说你爱我却一直说
说我不该窝在角落策划逃脱这也有错
连我脆弱的权利都掠夺

我不唱声嘶力竭的情歌
不表示没有心碎的时刻
我不曾摊开伤口任宰割愈合就无人晓得
我内心挫折
活像个孤独患者自我拉扯
外向的孤独患者有何不可

我不要声嘶力竭的情歌
来提示我需要你的时刻
表面镇定并不是保护色反而是要你懂得
我不知为何
活像个孤独患者自我拉扯
外向的孤独患者需要认可

周杰伦 - Mine Mine

2011-12-16T16:32:00.001+08:00

没有你的生活我开始写小说
好多画面好多灵感我要把稿费都给你
巷口不小心经过你的车子依旧停在红线帮你缴罚单
你叫我别管我才想到我们已经分开
想起那一个夏天那不是那不是那是冬天
想起你生气的脸每天就像冬天唉唉唉
你说那是爱爱爱
谁该坚强起来月亮还是太阳是谁遮了谁是谁都会依赖
你说已分开为什么还要帮你撑伞
Cuz baby you are mine mine(Mine..。。)
Mine mine(Mine..。。)
太快就承认我真的很想你
会不会没有男子气概 You say
Bye-bye(Bye )
Oh bye-bye(Bye )
拆开我的心随你看满满的都是爱
我的眼皮跳一下代表你在想我
我的耳朵痒一下代表你在讲我坏话
我没这么不好吧不用跟朋友说吧
如果以后和好了看到你朋友不是很尴尬
想起那一个夏天那不是那不是那是冬天
想起你生气的脸每天就像冬天唉唉唉
你说那是爱爱爱
骗谁我说的气话都收回
我写的小说根本是空白黑夜
你说既然已分开为何还要帮你撑伞
唛唛你唛搁唛搁偷偷离开
唛唛你唛搁唛搁偷偷离开
唛惊我不会放你一人治那你想祙有人靠有人会疼
唛呐你雨伞雨伞赶紧打开
唛呐你雨伞雨伞赶紧打开
唛闹落大雨你淋雨我艰苦落大雨我没你会艰苦
Cuz baby you are mine mine(Mine )
Mine mine(Mine )
太快就承认我真的很想你
会不会没有男子气概 You say
唛呐你雨伞雨伞赶紧打开
唛呐你雨伞雨伞赶紧打开
唛闹落大雨你淋雨我艰苦
落大雨我没你会艰苦
会艰苦

Thursday 15/12/11 - As long as my heart says ok, I am ok.

2011-12-15T23:48:00.000+08:00

Wednesday 14/12/11 - I need to find that someone...

2011-12-14T23:32:00.003+08:00

Sunday 11/12/11 - A Day Worths Remembrance

2011-12-11T23:45:00.000+08:00

A new chapter, a new beginning... Hope things will continue to stay beautiful...

The Best Things in Life are Free...

2011-11-03T00:00:00.001+08:00

The BEST THINGS in life are ALWAYS FREE. I agree... Trying to seek them... Have found some but not all.

We have many things in life that are free but we fail to treasure and realise them. It is time that we dont take them for granted and start to acknowledge them.

喜悅與海軍的愛情故事

2011-11-02T23:51:00.000+08:00

I believe in finding true love and I still believe in that. I always tear when I watch this.

I like these statement -

"女人爱上一个男人只有一个条件，跟金钱，背景，学历都无关，就是爱上他。她爱上你了。"

"即让我们有缘走到了一起不容易，那么我一定要把爱情进行到底。"

P.S. It been a long long time since I last stepped into a cinema. Not that I dont like but I cant find suitable company.

张惠妹 - 掉了

2011-11-01T00:20:00.000+08:00

心疼的玫瑰半夜还开著
找不到匆匆掉落的花蕊
回到现场却已来不及
等待任何回音都不可得

微弱的风筝冬天里飘著
回不去手中缠线的那个
没有蓝天又何必去飞怎么适合

黑色笑靥掉了雪白眼泪掉了
该出现的所有表情瞬间掉了
瞳孔没有颜色结了冰的长河
回忆是最可怕的敌人

故事情节掉了主角对白掉了
该属于剧中的对角戏也掉了
胸口没有快乐断了翅的白鸽
不枯萎的藉口全掉了

曾经唱过的歌分享过的笑声
在心中不断拉扯
想念不能承认偷偷擦去泪痕
冬天过了还是会很冷

田馥甄 - 还是要幸福

2011-10-31T00:16:00.000+08:00

不确定就别亲吻
感情很容易毁了一个人
一个人若不够狠
爱淡了不离不弃多残忍

你留下来的垃圾
我一天一天总会丢完的
我甚至真心真意的祝福
永恒在你的身上先发生

你还是要幸福
你千万不要在招惹别人哭
所有错误从我这里落幕
别跟着我铭心刻骨
你还是要幸福
我才能确定我还得很清楚
确定自己再也不会占据你的篇幅
明天开始这一切都结束

还我钥匙的备份
我觉得再见可以很单纯
我甚至真心真意的祝福
永恒在你的身上先发生

你还是要幸福
你千万不要在招惹别人哭
所有错误从我这里落幕
别跟着我铭心刻骨
你还是要幸福
我才能确定我还得很清楚
确定自己再也不会占据你的篇幅
明天开始这一切都结束

你还是要幸福
你千万不要在招惹别人哭
所有错误从我这里落幕
别跟着我铭心刻骨
你如果很幸福
半夜的简讯我就不需回复
因为你的悲喜已经有了容身之处
我也能有
最纯粹的孤独最孤独的孤独

[Movie] One Day

2011-10-30T22:54:00.002+08:00

I love to watch romantic movie. This is the latest one I have watched. Personally, I will love any romantic movie, so cant comment much, except that the ending was not what I wanted. Enjoy!

P.S. It been a long long time since I last stepped into a cinema. Not that I dont like but I cant find suitable company.

"If Love Is a Game, These Are the Rules" by Dr. Cherrie Carter-Scott

2011-10-29T17:31:00.000+08:00

The Ten Simple Rules:

You must love yourself first. It is a prerequisite to creating a successful and authentic union with another.
Partnering is a choice - the choice to be in a relationship is up to you. You have the ability to attract your beloved and cause the relationship you desire to happen.
Creating love is a process. Moving from I to we requires a shift in perspective and energy. Being an authentic couple is an evolution.
Relationships provide an opportunity to grow. They serve as an unofficial life stop in which you will learn about yourself and how you can grow on your personal path.
Communication is essential - it is the lifeblood of the relationship.
Negotiation will be required - there are times when you and your partner must work through impasses. If you do this consciously and with respect you will learn to create win-win outcomes.
Your relationship will be challenged by change. Life presents turns in the road. How you maneuver those twists and turns determines the success of your relationships.
You must nurture the relationship for it to thrive. If you give it your time, attention and effort, it will continue to grow with each passing day.
Renewal is the key to longevity. Happily every after means the ability to keep the relationship fresh and vital.
You will forget all this when you fall in love. We know these rules inherently. The challenge is to remember them when you fall in love.

Remark: can purchase from Amazon if interested...

韦礼安 - 还是会

2011-10-24T23:39:00.002+08:00

在日出之前能不能再看一眼你的脸
在离开以前能不能再说一些真心的诺言
能不能给我更多的时间就躺在你的身边
把这画面你静静的脸温柔的肩记在心里面

还是会
害怕醒来不在你身边的时候
害怕从此不在你左右
或许我
还是会还是会还是会不知所措
从今以后没有我你会不会
太寂寞

女人不知道的事

2011-10-16T16:08:00.000+08:00

1.當男生在你面前撒嬌，就應該慶幸，因為他把你當自己人看待，才向你展露自己暗藏最深的一面。

2.每個人都有完美的回憶，男生不是拿不起放不下，只是在懷戀曾經的美好。記住，他選擇了你，就有他的理由(他愛的是你想和你一起生活)。也許過一段時間，他會把自己的一切都告訴你。如果他覺得這些你沒必要知道，也相信他會處理好的，給他個回憶的空間。

3.男生潛在的不安分因子，喜歡格鬥和暴力，而遊戲等虛擬的世界，正好滿足了他的這種內心需求。他可以扮演一個暴虐的帝王，一個多情的浪子，一個落難的公子，這些角色的變化誘惑著男人，是男人的一種心理需求。在這外人無法干涉的空間裡，他獲得了許多自己想要的東西，得到了快感。

4.男人整天奔波著，總會有受傷的時候，而在受到傷害或失敗的時候，他們渴望的是自己一個人靜靜地呆一會兒，仔細地總結一下自己的過失，進行療傷。他們是不希望別人看到自己這樣失意的一面，願意給人一副精力充沛，充滿朝氣的樣子。因為在男人看來，自己是大男人，所以任何困難都能獨自解決。四處訴說嗎？在他看來那可能是女人才做的事情。所以最好先別打擾他，等他自己想清楚了，也會坦然地把自己的這些講給你聽。

5.男性的世界充滿了挑戰和壓力，當他們面臨人生的重大轉折時，總是習慣一個人做決定，然後將結果告訴別人。其實他並不是要隱瞞什麼，只是不想讓親愛的人也來承受本應由自己承受的壓力和煩惱。所以一定要給予理解，請別企圖領土擴張。

Taken from 談情說愛 - 女人不知道的事

再一次擁有

2011-10-15T15:57:00.001+08:00

這是分手後的第三天,依舊想著你..想著我們的過去

分手的那天雖然你說我們還會是朋友的

但..你知道嗎?我還是好愛你好想你的

雖然還是朋友但那種成份就是不同

雖然還是朋友但你的一切我再也沒資格管那麼多了

雖然還是朋友但我再也不能再像以前一樣時常的打電話給你了

雖然還是朋友但我再也不能像從前一樣的關心你了

或許..我該滿足了!因為畢竟分手後還能當朋友真的不容易

但..我真的好想你好懷念過去因為我已經習慣世界有了你

好想再聽你對我說老婆~我好愛你我好想你喔

好想再聽你對我說為了我為了我們的未來你要好好照顧自己的身體喔

好想再聽你對我唱伴還有天地

好想要再叫你一聲寶貝我也好想你好愛你

好想要再每封傳個你的訊息前加個寶貝老公

好想要再每晚和你通電話

好懷念我們一起編織著我們的美夢

好懷念我們每晚總是在你上班時間通了一整晚的電話

好懷念我們一同走過的足跡

好懷念每個有你陪伴的夜晚

但..如今這一切都只能成為回憶了

那種世界裡忽然少了一個人那麼的關心你.寵愛你的感覺真的好痛

我真的習慣世界有了你

好想好想再一次擁有曾屬於我的溫柔...

Taken from 談情說愛 - 再一次擁有

With Time Running Short, Jobs Managed His Farewells

2011-10-09T11:36:00.002+08:00

Over the last few months, a steady stream of visitors to Palo Alto, Calif., called an old friend’s home number and asked if he was well enough to entertain visitors, perhaps for the last time.

In February, Steven P. Jobs had learned that, after years of fighting cancer, his time was becoming shorter. He quietly told a few acquaintances, and they, in turn, whispered to others. And so a pilgrimage began.

The calls trickled in at first. Just a few, then dozens, and in recent weeks, a nearly endless stream of people who wanted a few moments to say goodbye, according to people close to Mr. Jobs. Most were intercepted by his wife, Laurene. She would apologetically explain that he was too tired to receive many visitors. In his final weeks, he became so weak that it was hard for him to walk up the stairs of his own home anymore, she confided to one caller.

Some asked if they might try again tomorrow.

Sorry, she replied. He had only so much energy for farewells. The man who valued his privacy almost as much as his ability to leave his mark on the world had decided whom he most needed to see before he left.

Mr. Jobs spent his final weeks — as he had spent most of his life — in tight control of his choices. He invited a close friend, the physician Dean Ornish, a preventive health advocate, to join him for sushi at one of his favorite restaurants, Jin Sho in Palo Alto. He said goodbye to longtime colleagues including the venture capitalist John Doerr, the Apple board member Bill Campbell and the Disney chief executive Robert A. Iger. He offered Apple’s executives advice on unveiling the iPhone 4S, which occurred on Tuesday. He spoke to his biographer, Walter Isaacson. He started a new drug regime, and told some friends that there was reason for hope.

But, mostly, he spent time with his wife and children — who will now oversee a fortune of at least $6.5 billion, and, in addition to their grief, take on responsibility for tending to the legacy of someone who was as much a symbol as a man.

“Steve made choices,” Dr. Ornish said. “I once asked him if he was glad that he had kids, and he said, ‘It’s 10,000 times better than anything I’ve ever done.’ ”

“But for Steve, it was all about living life on his own terms and not wasting a moment with things he didn’t think were important. He was aware that his time on earth was limited. He wanted control of what he did with the choices that were left.”

In his final months, Mr. Jobs’s home — a large and comfortable but relatively modest brick house in a residential neighborhood — was surrounded by security guards. His driveway’s gate was flanked by two black S.U.V.’s.

On Thursday, as online eulogies multiplied and the walls of Apple stores in Taiwan, New York, Shanghai and Frankfurt were papered with hand-drawn cards, the S.U.V.’s were removed and the sidewalk at his home became a garland of bouquets, candles and a pile of apples, each with one bite carefully removed.

“Everyone always wanted a piece of Steve,” said one acquaintance who, in Mr. Jobs’s final weeks, was rebuffed when he sought an opportunity to say goodbye. “He created all these layers to protect himself from the fan boys and other peoples’ expectations and the distractions that have destroyed so many other companies.

“But once you’re gone, you belong to the world.”

Mr. Jobs’s biographer, Mr. Isaacson, whose book will be published in two weeks, asked him why so private a man had consented to the questions of someone writing a book. “I wanted my kids to know me,” Mr. Jobs replied, Mr. Isaacson wrote Thursday in an essay on Time.com. “I wasn’t always there for them, and I wanted them to know why and to understand what I did.”

Because of that privacy, little is known yet of what Mr. Jobs’s heirs will do with his wealth. Unlike many prominent business people, he has never disclosed plans to give large amounts to charity. His shares in Disney, which Mr. Jobs acquired when the entertainment company purchased his animated film company, Pixar, are worth about $4.4 billion. That is double the $2.1 billion value of his shares in Apple, perhaps surprising given that he is best known for the computer company he founded.

Mr. Jobs’s emphasis on secrecy, say acquaintances, led him to shy away from large public donations. At one point, Mr. Jobs was asked by the Microsoft founder Bill Gates to give a majority of his wealth to philanthropy alongside a number of prominent executives like Mr. Gates and Warren E. Buffett. But Mr. Jobs declined, according to a person with direct knowledge of Mr. Jobs’s decision.

Now that Mr. Jobs is gone, many people expect that attention will focus on his wife, Laurene Powell Jobs, who has largely avoided the spotlight, but is expected to oversee Mr. Jobs’s fortune. A graduate of the University of Pennsylvania and the Stanford Graduate School of Business, Mrs. Powell Jobs worked in investment banking before founding a natural foods company. She then founded College Track, a program that pairs disadvantaged students with mentors who help them earn college degrees. That has led to some speculation in the philanthropic community that any large charitable contributions might go to education, though no one outside Mr. Jobs’s inner circle is thought to know of the plans.

Mr. Jobs himself never got a college degree. Despite leaving Reed College after six months, he was asked to give the 2005 commencement speech at Stanford.

In that address, delivered after Mr. Jobs was told he had cancer but before it was clear that it would ultimately claim his life, Mr. Jobs told his audience that “death is very likely the single best invention of life. It is life’s change agent.”

The benefit of death, he said, is you know not to waste life living someone else’s choices.

“Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition.”

In his final months, Mr. Jobs became even more dedicated to such sentiments. “Steve’s concerns these last few weeks were for people who depended on him: the people who worked for him at Apple and his four children and his wife,” said Mona Simpson, Mr. Jobs’s sister. “His tone was tenderly apologetic at the end. He felt terrible that he would have to leave us.”

As news of the seriousness of his illness became more widely known, Mr. Jobs was asked to attend farewell dinners and to accept various awards.

He turned down the offers. On the days that he was well enough to go to Apple’s offices, all he wanted afterward was to return home and have dinner with his family. When one acquaintance became too insistent on trying to send a gift to thank Mr. Jobs for his friendship, he was asked to stop calling. Mr. Jobs had other things to do before time ran out.

“He was very human,” Dr. Ornish said. “He was so much more of a real person than most people know. That’s what made him so great.”

Taken from Yahoo Singapore Finance

談情說愛 - 讓自己清醒的19句話

2011-08-09T11:41:00.000+08:00

1、如果發簡訊給一個人，他一直不回，不要再發了。沒有這麼卑微的等待。

2、如果沒有人陪，學著一個人聽音樂看書寫點心情日記。這是個好習慣。

3、如果一個人很難過，找個角落或者在被子裏哭一下，不需要別人同情可憐，哭過之後一樣開心生活。

4、如果一個人開始怠慢你，請你離開他。不懂珍惜你的人不要為之不舍，更不必繼續付出你的友情或愛情，到頭來受傷的是自己，他人不會為之難過。

5、如果可以不抽煙，別抽。如果可以不喝酒，別喝。這是不愛惜自己身體的表現，如果只因一些人，那麼我們別傻了，愛你的人不會讓你難過的。

6、傷心的時候找個信任的朋友訴說一下，不要一個人默默承受，這只會會更添寂寞感與憂傷。

7、不開心的時候白天看看藍天晚上看看夜色，廣闊的天空自有屬於我們愛，寧可高傲的發黴不要低調的戀愛。跟自己說我是最好的，保持一份自信。

8、寧缺毋濫。不要因為寂寞隨手抓一個戀人，這對兩人都不公平，而且太缺乏責任感。找個知己不要是戀人。

9、記住你喜歡的人的生日，包括你的家人，當然，還有自己。生日沒有人送禮物也無所謂，你可以買精美的禮物，送給媽媽和爸爸。

10、閑下來的時候，放一段柔情音樂，翻閱幾頁好書，然後睡個懶覺，快哉。心情不好的時候，也可以睡一覺。

11、從現在開始，聰明一點，不要問別人想不想你？愛不愛你？若是要想你或者愛你自然會對你說，但是從你的嘴裏說出來，別人會很驕傲和不在乎你。

12、不要太在意一些人太在乎一些事，順其自然以最佳心態面對。因為這世界就是這麼不公平往往在最在乎的事物面前我們最沒有價值。

13、不要為了任何人任何事折磨自己。比如不吃飯、哭泣、自閉、抑鬱，這些都是傻瓜才做的事。當然，偶爾傻一下有必要，人生不必時時聰明。

14、任何情況下，背後不說他人是非。如果你一定要說，說好話。多個朋友是好事，即使不是很要好的，總比因為自己說話不慎重不思考而多一個敵人好得多。

15、允許偶爾看肥皂劇，但不可成為依賴。允許偶爾披頭散髮，但要注重場合。允許偶爾罵髒話，但只限在老友面前或者獨自一人時，說過後記得要忘掉那些讓你難過的事。

16、一定要有幾個異性朋友，沒有非分之想，就是關鍵時候，能幫你出出主意的好友。

17、學會承受痛苦自己調整心態。有些話，適合爛在心裏，有些痛苦，適合無聲無息的忘記。當經歷過，你成長了，自己知道就好。很多改變，不需要你自己說，別人會看得到。

18、能不和人爭吵儘量避免。一個發怒的人是很恐怖的，會因控制不了情緒變成瘋子。忍耐然後思索問題的根源最後平靜心態解決它。

19、不管和誰有了矛盾和彆扭，解決的時間不要超過24小時。否則麻煩會更多。在可以接受的範圍內，先道歉。有時候做壞人不是件真的壞事。

Taken from 談情說愛 - 讓自己清醒的19句話

阿福 - 声声慢

2011-07-03T17:31:00.002+08:00

詞: 楊謹維曲: 何官錠演唱: 阿福

尋尋覓覓的那天冷冷清清的那夜淒淒慘慘的冬天我又重來一遍
蘇三又離了紅桐縣吹散了　這春天該有的桃花月我又開始想念

妳悄悄走的那天我默默閉上雙眼風偷偷吹散紅線我又重來一遍
娘子離開了我房間安靜　的煙圈飄散成　你的臉怎逼我再想念

怨言~ 倒流回我呼吸的瞬間放肆的宣泄
諾言~ 怎麽還聽得見想告訴你

蘇三她倚著窗靜靜凝望著月光怎麽唱淚流下完全忘了
那天她離鄉的堅強我靜靜倚著窗默默凝望著路旁
那朵花在飄香完全忘了你離開的時候留下的那種悲傷

怎麽唱淚流下完全忘了那天她離鄉的堅強

蘇三她倚著窗靜靜凝望著月光怎麽唱淚流下完全忘了
那天她離鄉的堅強我靜靜倚著窗默默凝望著路旁
那朵花在飄香完全忘了你離開的時候留下的那種悲傷

感人MV(備好面紙.你會淚流不止)

2011-06-20T00:23:00.000+08:00

5 regrets people have on their deathbeds

2011-06-19T14:26:00.018+08:00

Ms. Bronnie Ware has worked with the dying for many years. She recently detailed the top 5 regrets that people have on their deathbed on her blog - REGRETS OF THE DYING.

While we are all bound to have some regrets in life, here are the top 5.

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

Ware said that this was the most common regret of all. It’s easy to let our dreams slip by due to circumstances or decisions that we’ve made. These choices mark the divide between living a fulfilled life or one that is full of regrets.

It’s important that we aim to achieve at least some of our dreams along the way. We often put off trying for our dreams due to a myriad of reasons. Before we know it, we would have lost our health and therefore, our chance to attain them.

If your dream is to start a business, get to it. If it’s to learn how to dance or try skydiving, book a class. If you want to make music, pick up a guitar.

Don’t put it off any longer.

2. I wish I didn’t work so hard.

In between having ends meet and aiming for a luxurious lifestyle, it’s easy to see why we get caught up with our work.

Ware said that this was a common regret of male patients who didn’t manage to spend enough time with their family.

It’s easy to get caught up in the rat race, but remember to set aside some time for the important things in life. Most importantly, you will have to understand why you do what you do. Is it for your own personal achievement, for family, or for a higher calling?

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.

Hands up anyone who has suppressed their feelings in order to avoid potential embarrassment or argument.

Avoiding arguments is good for a harmonious life, but the problem comes when we take it too far. When we blindly follow the opinions of someone more assertive just to avoid arguments, we’re shortchanging ourselves.

While it’s understandable that we use Twitter and blogging to rant about things we are unhappy with, do remember that talking about it face-to-face is always a more sincere option.

So if an issue is major enough, try approaching the person for an honest and frank chat. We’re not saying that the talk will be smooth sailing, but your relationships will emerge stronger and healthier.

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

It’s easy to lose touch with good friends. A busy lifestyle can take away time from the ones you love. This is where technology comes in.

With services like Facebook, WhatsApp and Yahoo! Messenger, it’s easy to keep tabs on old friends. Talking to friends is so effortless today that we have no reason to let staying in touch with friends take a backseat.

At the end of the day though, nothing beats chatting over a cup of coffee. So always remember to occasionally take things offline and catch up with your friends the old fashioned way.

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

‘Many don't realize until the end that happiness is a choice’, said Ware in her blog post.

This is very true. Happiness is something that we choose for ourselves. Many get upset over the circumstances in their lives. What they do not realize is that they can choose to face difficulties with a smile.

Take a moment and enjoy life. If difficulties come your way, remember that pain is inevitable but wallowing in misery is always optional.

Choose to be happy.

Taken from YAHOO Singapore - 5 regrets people have on their deathbeds.

黑人＆范范 - 百年好合婚禮花絮

2011-05-08T23:23:00.000+08:00

When a GIRL ...

2011-04-26T00:22:00.000+08:00

When a GIRL is quiet … millions of things are running in her mind.

When a GIRL is not arguing … she is thinking deeply.

When a GIRL looks at u with eyes full of questions …. she is wondering how long you will be around.

When a GIRL answers ‘ I’m fine ‘ after a few seconds … she is not at all fine.

When a GIRL stares at you she is wondering why you are lying.

When a GIRL lays on your chest .. she is wishing for you to be hers forever.

When a GIRL wants to see you everyday… she wants to be pampered.

When a GIRL says ‘ I love you ‘ .. she means it.

When a GIRL says ‘ I miss you ‘ …. no one in this world can miss you more than that..

How can you tell if the man is right for you?

2011-04-25T00:14:00.001+08:00

“Find a guy who calls you beautiful instead of hot, who calls you back when you hang up on him, who will lie under the stars and listen to your heartbeat, or will stay awake just to watch you sleep... wait for the boy who kisses your forehead, who wants to show you off to the world when you are in sweats, who holds your hand in front of his friends, who thinks you're just as pretty without makeup on. One who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares and how lucky his is to have you.... The one who turns to his friends and says, 'that's her.'”

Sunday 24/04/11 - Stranger, Again

2011-04-24T23:54:00.005+08:00

This is so so true.

"Every relationship goes through stages. Where and how each stage develops is ultimately up to each person. While we always hope for the best, we often can't avoid the inevitable."

I am glad that I have experienced it before. Though it was heart-breaking, I still survived. Enjoy the video!

When you have a new hope, you have started a new life.

2011-04-22T23:45:00.000+08:00

陈晓东 - 比我幸福

2011-04-18T23:15:00.002+08:00

望着广场的时钟你还在我的怀里躲风
不习惯言不由衷沉默如何能让你都懂
此刻与你相拥也算有始有终
祝福有许多种心痛却尽在不言中

请你一定要比我幸福才不枉费我狼狈退出
再痛也不说苦爱不用抱歉来弭补
至少我能成全你的追逐

请记得你要比我幸福才值得我对自己残酷
我默默的倒数最后再把你看清楚
看你眼里的我好馍糊慢慢被放逐

望着广场的时钟你还在我的怀里躲风
不习惯言不由衷沉默如何能让你都懂
此刻与你相拥也算有始有终
祝福有许多种心痛却尽在不言中

请你一定要比我幸福才不枉费我狼狈退出
再痛也不说苦爱不用抱歉来弭补
至少我能成全你的追逐

请记得你要比我幸福才值得我对自己残酷
我默默的倒数最后再把你看清楚
看你眼里的我好馍糊慢慢被放逐

放心去追逐你的幸福
别管我愿不愿孤不孤独都别在乎!

请你一定要比我幸福才不枉费我狼狈退出
再痛也不说苦爱不用抱歉来弭补
至少我能成全你的追逐

请记得你要比我幸福才值得我对自己残酷
我默默的倒数最后再把你看清楚
看你眼里的我好馍糊慢慢被放逐
放心去追逐你的幸福
别管我愿不愿孤不孤独都别在乎!

Monday 28/02/11 - Nice Pic!

2011-02-28T22:54:00.004+08:00

Have been quite tired these few days. Haiz! Anyway, was surfing the net when I came across the picture. Nice depiction though!

Friday 18/02/11 - I Dont Like to be Pacified; Neither Do I Like to Pacify Others...

2011-02-18T22:44:00.004+08:00

While I was waiting for the train to come, I observed the couple that was sitting beside me. The girl tried to "sayang" the boy but the boy rejected it. Then, I suddenly realised this - I dont like to be sayang or pacified and I have never done this to my exs. On the other hand, it also appears that I am hard to be pacified because it is hard for me to response to his pacification; I rather he leaves me alone, I will be fine after that.

P.S. Oh well! That's me. Sometimes, I feel that I am just too man.

Tuesday 08/02/11 - I Like the New Google Image!

2011-02-08T23:42:00.002+08:00

习惯

2011-01-08T22:51:00.001+08:00

我们都习惯了，等到分开了，才觉得要珍惜，这就是宿命吗？

Friday 31/12/10 - 2011 New Year Resolution

2010-12-31T11:32:00.003+08:00

Havent been making any since young. I guess this year I should do something different.

Below is the resolutions for next year
1) Be happier
2) Have a closer relationship with God
3) Learn to relax and appreciate life
4) Make more friends and keep in touch with existing ones
5) Exercise, exercise and exercise
6) Sleep by 11 pm

You Are My Sunshine

2010-12-28T20:43:00.000+08:00

You Are My Sunshine
My only sunshine.
You make me happy
When skies are grey.
You'll never know, dear,
How much I love you.
Please don't take my sunshine away

P.S. When I find the right guy, I will sing to him. Promise!

What is the Best Relationship?

2010-12-27T13:35:00.005+08:00

It was the coldest winter ever. Many animals died because of the cold. The porcupines, realizing the situation, decided to group together. This way they covered and protected themselves; but the quills of each one wounded their closest companions even though they gave off heat to each other. After awhile, they decided to distance themselves one from the other and they began to die, alone and frozen. So they had to make a choice: either accept the quills of their companions or disappear from the Earth.

Wisely, they decided to go back to being together. This way they learned to live with the little wounds that were caused by the close relationship with their companion, but the most important part of it, was the heat that came from the others. This way they were able to survive.

Moral of the story: The best relationship is not the one that brings together perfect people, but the best is when each individual learns to live with the imperfections of others and can admire the other person's good qualities.

Taken from www.connectingsingles.com

Disclaimer: I didnt go to the site. I saw the story on FaceBook and decided to post the whole story here and thus, I googled it.

Sunday 26/12/09 - How I Feel After One Year

2010-12-26T21:33:00.002+08:00

I can still remember what happened one year ago; I was on the kitchen floor, crying hard and talking on the phone. I can only remember the take home message from the whole conversation. Anyway, it doesnt matter anymore; life goes on.

To be frank, I dont know if I still like him. I think of him everyday for unknown reasons. Maybe it is a habit, maybe I still like him, maybe my heart cant be void. Still emo, especially when I am have more free time.

After all these, I may have changed. It will be good to have love but if there isnt, it is ok. I rather have stable mood than fluctuating mood.

I Love This! So TRUE...

2010-12-25T12:15:00.013+08:00

I came across this last might and I simply love it. Cant help but to agree that it is so so true. YES! I have a weak and fragile heart and it get even weaker as I age.

人生最大的遗憾

2010-12-21T16:41:00.001+08:00

人生最大的遗憾，就是没有好好地告别。。。

萧敬腾 - 新不了情

2010-12-20T00:49:00.000+08:00

心若倦了泪也干了
这份深情难舍难了
曾经拥有天荒地老
已不见你暮暮与朝朝

这一份情永远难了
愿来生还能再度拥抱
爱一个人如何厮守到老
怎样面对一切我不知道

回忆过去痛苦的相思忘不了
为何你还来拨动我心跳
爱你怎么能了
今夜的你应该明了
缘难了情难了

爱情折扣; LOVE 50%

2010-12-19T21:19:00.002+08:00

错的人走了，对的人才会出现。

真真的幸福是属于我们两个人的。

能遇到让你很幸福的人，是幸福的。

辛苦了，幸福就会来了。

Saturday 18/12/10 - Is it Possible?

2010-12-18T17:43:00.002+08:00

会有人不顾一切来爱我吗？

黄韵玲 & 马海生 - 心动

2010-12-14T02:00:00.000+08:00

有多久没见你(总是想再见你)
以为你在哪里(还试著打探消息)
原来就住在我心底一回头就看到你
原来就住在我心底陪伴著我的呼吸
有多远的距离(总是想再见你)
以为闻不到你的气息(还想着你的背景)
谁知道你背影这么长回头就看到你

过去让它过去来不及从头喜欢你
白云缠绕著蓝天
啊如果不能够永远走在一起
也至少给我们怀念的勇气
拥抱的权利好让你明白
我心动
以为你会在哪里(还相信你的背景)
我心动的痕迹

等一等爱情; Love is like taxi

2010-12-12T23:19:00.003+08:00

Love is like taxi.
Sometimes it waits for you,
Sometimes you wait for it.
As long as you are willing to wait,
it will come to you eventually.

爱情就像德士。
有时它等你，
有时你等它。
只要你肯等，
你一定会等到他/她。

爱情

2010-12-02T22:54:00.003+08:00

爱情，永远逃不出命运的魔掌，世间情事，总与我们的心愿背道而驰，上帝在云端眨了一下眼，所有的结局都已被改写，所谓繁华落尽，如梦无痕，即使一切都已改变，但回忆依旧挥抹不去。

你我相遇，却又相离，我们无法忤逆命运的安排，我们缘分已尽，唯一能够拥有的，只有曾经共处残留的那点温柔。注定我拥有不了我想要的爱情，注定我的爱情，泪水多于欢笑。

Taken from 思忆...

失望，有时候也是一种幸福

2010-12-01T21:58:00.000+08:00

失望，有时候也是一种幸福，因为有所期待所以才会失望。因为有爱，才会有期待，所以纵使失望，也是一种幸福，虽然这种幸福有点痛。

过去让它过去，是没有如果的

2010-11-30T21:41:00.004+08:00

Brotzeti - German Bier Bar & Restaurant

2010-11-29T20:18:00.000+08:00

Yesterday, I went to Brotzeit German Bier Bar & Restaurant (Vivocity) with Uni friends. We tried German Pork Knuckle ($36; left), Sausage Platter ($32.50; right) and Fish & Chips ($32.50; not shown). I really like all the dishes and will go back again.

Can check out @ these sites:
1) Brotzeit German Bier Bar & Restaurant Homepage
2) HungryGoWhere Review
3) TravelHappily.com Review
4) LadyIronChef.com Review

Fated to Love You/命中註定我愛你

2010-11-28T17:40:00.000+08:00

After 2 years, 命中註定我愛你 is still close to my heart. Haha...

For people that are interested, catch it here!

Chocoelf - Fine Chocolate... OMG!

2010-11-27T16:32:00.005+08:00

Happened to come across this when I was watching TV. They are selling nice chocolates that are handmade by Singapore. Haha... Btw, chocolate is something that is close to my heart too.

The Rajan Inn - Lunch Porridge Buffet with Indonesian Cuisine

2010-11-26T14:37:00.000+08:00

I think I will go and try it one day because I like porridge and it is quite cheap. Furthermore, it is near Outram. Haha...

Location

302 Tiong Bahru Road #02-13/14/15 Tiong Bahru Plaza Singapore

Buffet - Something that is Always Close to my Heart!

2010-11-26T14:16:00.000+08:00

I have always love buffet, regardless of the type - it is really a good opportunity for friends to come together and enjoy great food and talk. I prefer lunch buffet since it is cheaper but off course, the variety is reduced but it doesnt matter the restaurant is already serving 50++ varieties. On the other hand, buffet can be quite calorie demanding. Haha... Therefore, only go for those that worth it and always control the portion/serving.

Check this link Best Buffet Singapore for recommendation. Personally, I havent tried.

Let's Sweets - Japanese Buffet in 60 mins!

2010-11-26T12:39:00.000+08:00

I came across this restaurant when I was watching the TV. Desserts look nice and lovely. Btw, my eyes always sparkle and my mouth becomes watery whenever I see these appealing desserts. It is not expensive just that after reading much review, the main complaint is time - for lunch, only 60 mins is given, which consists of 50 mins meal time and 10 mins payment time; for dinner, only 80 mins is given, which consists of 70 mins meal time and 10 mins payment time. This can be quite pressuring, especially I am someone that takes time to savor food and therefore, I will only try if they are going to extend the dining time.

For those that are interested, the links are below:

1) Let's Sweets Homepage
2) Cuisine Paradise Review
3) HungryGoWhere Review
4) Daniel's Food Diary Review
5) Food Prints | Singapore Food Blog Review

Location

1) 200 Victoria Street #02-49 Bugis Junction Singapore
2) 68 Orchard Road #04-01 Tokyo Walker, Plaza Singapura Singapore

Tuesday 23/11/10 - Nice Dress! Love it!

2010-11-24T00:04:00.007+08:00

I love this dress and the material is good. It is the best online dress I bought so far and it only costs me slightly less than $9. Haha... Happy happy!

Monday 22/11/10 - Bright Yellow Urine...

2010-11-22T23:35:00.003+08:00

For the past few months, I have been having bright yellow urine; used to be pale yellow or clear. I was worried I have kidney problem and I went online to check it up.

After reading some sources, I am relieved. I took this from MayoClinic.com...

Normal urine color ranges from pale yellow to deep amber — the result of a pigment called urochrome and how diluted or concentrated the urine is.

But the color of your urine may not always be normal. B vitamins turn urine color an eye-popping green, for instance. Carrot juice can tint it orange. And porphyria, a disease that affects your skin and nervous system, earned its reputation — and its name — by turning urine the color of port wine.

Most changes in urine color are harmless and temporary — the result of certain foods, dyes, supplements or prescription drugs. Occasionally, though, unusual urine color can indicate an infection or serious illness. Talk to your doctor about changes in urine color that persist or don't seem linked to medications or food.

Other sources:
1) Is bright yellow urine normal?
2) Urine Color as Health Indicator

Therefore, I concluded that I am ok because I am taking multivitamin and mineral nowadays. Glad to know that. *smile*

Sunday 21/11/10 - Buying Sunglasses Online!

2010-11-21T19:47:00.013+08:00

I just bought a sunglasses online; the white one though. Prior to that, I was reading online to check the type of sunglasses which is suitable for me. Below are some useful websites that I went for such information:

1. eBay Guides - Sunglasses Buying Guids
2. Face Shape Guide | How to choose the best eyeglasses or sunglasses for your face shape
3. Choosing the right sunglasses for your face
4. Choosing the Style of Sunglasses and Frames

Saturday 20/11/10 - Nice Picture!

2010-11-20T16:23:00.012+08:00

Chengdu: Holiday in central China for culture, food and nature

This picture looks so nice wow. Haha... Sweet!

Friday 19/11/10 - Paper Clips

2010-11-19T00:15:00.000+08:00

I love these papers clips!

Thursday 18/11/10 - 习惯一个人

2010-11-18T22:47:00.012+08:00

Wednesday 17/11/10 - 幸福讲究的不是结果, 而果过程

2010-11-17T22:59:00.008+08:00

幸福讲究的不是结果, 而果过程.

Well, maybe it is true. I still cant accept this at this point in time. Maybe one day, I will understand.

Monday 15/11/10 - Excuse Me, How to Go to Your Heart?

2010-11-15T21:35:00.003+08:00

Boy : Can I ask u for road direction?
Girl : Of course, where do u want to go?
Boy : Hmm.. Then can I know the road direction to your heart...

男:我可以向你问路吗?
女:可以啊…那你要去那?
男:请问到你心里去,怎么走啊...

Saturday 13/11/10 - Lucky vs Unlucky

2010-11-13T14:20:00.028+08:00

Some look for true love,
Some look for a partner for life.
The lucky ones find both in one person.
The unlucky ones are forced to choose.

P.S. I hope I am the lucky one; I believe there is someone waiting for me even though I am clueless now.

林晓培 - 心动

2010-11-08T23:39:00.004+08:00

有多久没见你
以为你在那里
原来就住在我的心底
陪伴着我的呼吸

有多远的距离
以为闻不到你的气息
谁知道你背影这么长
回头就看到你

过去让它过去来不及
从头喜欢你
白云缠绕着蓝天
如果不能够永远都在一起
也至少给我们
怀念的勇气
拥抱的权利
好让你明白
我心动的痕迹

总是想再见你
还试着打探你的消息
原来你就住在我的身体
守护我的回忆

田馥甄 - 寂寞寂寞就好

2010-11-08T00:06:00.002+08:00

还是原来那个我
不过流掉几公升泪所以变瘦
对着镜子我承诺
迟早我会还这张脸一堆笑容

不算什麽爱错就爱错
早点认错早一点解脱

我寂寞寂寞就好
这时候谁都别来安慰拥抱
就让我一个人去痛到受不了想到快疯掉
死不了就还好
我寂寞寂寞就好
你真的不用来我回忆里微笑
我就不相信我会笨到忘不了赖着不放掉
人本来就寂寞的借来的都该还掉

我总会把你戒掉

还是原来那个你
是我自己做梦你有改变什麽
再多的爱也没用
每个人有每个人的业障因果

会有什麽什麽都没有
早点看破才看得见以后

我寂寞寂寞就好
这时候谁都别来安慰拥抱
就让我一个人去痛到受不了想到快疯掉
死不了就还好
我寂寞寂寞就好
你真的不用来我回忆里微笑
我就不相信我会笨到忘不了赖着不放掉
人本来就寂寞的我总会把你戒掉

CD Album - 幸福的天空 2 我很想你

2010-11-07T11:59:00.010+08:00

专辑介绍：
只要想你
对我来说就是世界上最幸福的事…
幸福就像氢气球一不小心就从手中溜走
仰望著蓝天我知道幸福就在我身边

01 我要的幸福 - 孙燕姿
02 真实 - 张惠妹
03 我们的爱 - 飞儿乐团
04 让每个人都心碎 - 黄大炜
05 无底洞 - 蔡健雅
06 旧爱还是最美 - 苏永康
07 眼泪 - 范晓萱
08 突然想爱你 - 许茹芸
09 太想爱你 - 张信哲
10 我应该得到 - 郑秀文
11 喜欢你 - 陈洁仪
12 燃烧 - 孙楠
13 我等的人会是 - 陈嘉唯

蔡健雅 - 若你碰到他

2010-11-07T11:52:00.001+08:00

我的脆弱坚强互相作战
理性与感性失去平衡感
不想让自己活在过去的遗憾
问宇宙他是否还爱我吗
这问题早就有答案

若你碰到了替我问候他
告诉他我过得很美满
已忘记他已把泪水全部擦干
若你碰到了替我问候他
祝福他和他的另一半
不在乎他不再爱也不再等待
就这样吧若你碰到他

我的自私慷慨互相挑战
黑夜白天颠倒造成困扰
常在最乐观时突然跌进沮丧
为何失恋后想恢复那么困难
只好找些催眠的话

爱没有绝对虽曾经以为
我终於体会
爱不能倒退该让它颓废
收起心碎

Friday 05/11/10 - 为有时间, 让爱, 更了解爱; Only with time will love understand

2010-11-05T16:41:00.008+08:00

I really like this video. Especially this statement,

"Is there a deadline for love? The closer we are, the more uncertain our love seems.";

"爱情真的有期限吗? 我们走得越近, 却越模糊."

I have to agree that there is a deadline for love and unfortunately, it is not forever. Love does expire and once it expires, there is nothing you can do but to accept.

萧亚轩 - 错的人

2010-11-05T01:03:00.002+08:00

明知道爱情并不牢靠
但是我还是拼命往里跳
明知道再走可能是监牢
但是我还是相信只是煎熬

朋友都劝我不要不要
不要拿自己的幸福开玩笑
但是做人已经那么累
假惺惺的想要逃
在爱里连真心都不能给
这才真的真正的可笑

爱得太真太容易让自己牺牲
太容易让自己沉沦
太容易不顾一切满是伤痕
我太笨明知道你是错的人
明知道这不是缘分
但是我还奋不顾身
但我相信有点可能

可能在爱里面这样算笨
可能永远没有所谓永恒
但是我不愿放弃这里面一点点可能
宁愿笨也不想要悔恨

Friday 291010 - Inspiring!

2010-10-29T10:31:00.015+08:00

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Written by Adrian Tan, author of The Teenage Textbook (1988), was the guest-of-honour at a recent NTU convocation ceremony. This was his speech to the graduating class of 2008.
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I must say thank you to the faculty and staff of the Wee Kim Wee School of Communication and Information for inviting me to give your convocation address. It’s a wonderful honour and a privilege for me to speak here for ten minutes without fear of contradiction, defamation or retaliation. I say this as a Singaporean and more so as a husband.

My wife is a wonderful person and perfect in every way except one. She is the editor of a magazine. She corrects people for a living. She has honed her expert skills over a quarter of a century, mostly by practising at home during conversations between her and me.

On the other hand, I am a litigator. Essentially, I spend my day telling people how wrong they are. I make my living being disagreeable.

Nevertheless, there is perfect harmony in our matrimonial home. That is because when an editor and a litigator have an argument, the one who triumphs is always the wife.

And so I want to start by giving one piece of advice to the men: when you’ve already won her heart, you don’t need to win every argument.

Marriage is considered one milestone of life. Some of you may already be married. Some of you may never be married. Some of you will be married. Some of you will enjoy the experience so much, you will be married many, many times. Good for you.

The next big milestone in your life is today: your graduation. The end of education. You’re done learning.

You’ve probably been told the big lie that “Learning is a lifelong process” and that therefore you will continue studying and taking masters’ degrees and doctorates and professorships and so on. You know the sort of people who tell you that? Teachers. Don’t you think there is some measure of conflict of interest? They are in the business of learning, after all. Where would they be without you? They need you to be repeat customers.

The good news is that they’re wrong.

The bad news is that you don’t need further education because your entire life is over. It is gone. That may come as a shock to some of you. You’re in your teens or early twenties. People may tell you that you will live to be 70, 80, 90 years old. That is your life expectancy.

I love that term: life expectancy. We all understand the term to mean the average life span of a group of people. But I’m here to talk about a bigger idea, which is what you expect from your life.

You may be very happy to know that Singapore is currently ranked as the country with the third highest life expectancy. We are behind Andorra and Japan, and tied with San Marino. It seems quite clear why people in those countries, and ours, live so long. We share one thing in common: our football teams are all hopeless. There’s very little danger of any of our citizens having their pulses raised by watching us play in the World Cup. Spectators are more likely to be lulled into a gentle and restful nap.

Singaporeans have a life expectancy of 81.8 years. Singapore men live to an average of 79.21 years, while Singapore women live more than five years longer, probably to take into account the additional time they need to spend in the bathroom.

So here you are, in your twenties, thinking that you’ll have another 40 years to go. Four decades in which to live long and prosper.

Bad news. Read the papers. There are people dropping dead when they’re 50, 40, 30 years old. Or quite possibly just after finishing their convocation. They would be very disappointed that they didn’t meet their life expectancy.

I’m here to tell you this. Forget about your life expectancy.

After all, it’s calculated based on an average. And you never, ever want to expect being average.

Revisit those expectations. You might be looking forward to working, falling in love, marrying, raising a family. You are told that, as graduates, you should expect to find a job paying so much, where your hours are so much, where your responsibilities are so much.

That is what is expected of you. And if you live up to it, it will be an awful waste.

If you expect that, you will be limiting yourself. You will be living your life according to boundaries set by average people. I have nothing against average people. But no one should aspire to be them. And you don’t need years of education by the best minds in Singapore to prepare you to be average.

What you should prepare for is mess. Life’s a mess. You are not entitled to expect anything from it. Life is not fair. Everything does not balance out in the end. Life happens, and you have no control over it. Good and bad things happen to you day by day, hour by hour, moment by moment. Your degree is a poor armour against fate.

Don’t expect anything. Erase all life expectancies. Just live. Your life is over as of today. At this point in time, you have grown as tall as you will ever be, you are physically the fittest you will ever be in your entire life and you are probably looking the best that you will ever look. This is as good as it gets. It is all downhill from here. Or up. No one knows.

What does this mean for you? It is good that your life is over.

Since your life is over, you are free. Let me tell you the many wonderful things that you can do when you are free.

The most important is this: do not work.

Work is anything that you are compelled to do. By its very nature, it is undesirable.

Work kills. The Japanese have a term “Karoshi”, which means death from overwork. That’s the most dramatic form of how work can kill. But it can also kill you in more subtle ways. If you work, then day by day, bit by bit, your soul is chipped away, disintegrating until there’s nothing left. A rock has been ground into sand and dust.

There’s a common misconception that work is necessary. You will meet people working at miserable jobs. They tell you they are “making a living”. No, they’re not. They’re dying, frittering away their fast-extinguishing lives doing things which are, at best, meaningless and, at worst, harmful.

People will tell you that work ennobles you, that work lends you a certain dignity. Work makes you free. The slogan “Arbeit macht frei” was placed at the entrances to a number of Nazi concentration camps. Utter nonsense.

Do not waste the vast majority of your life doing something you hate so that you can spend the small remainder sliver of your life in modest comfort. You may never reach that end anyway.

Resist the temptation to get a job. Instead, play. Find something you enjoy doing. Do it. Over and over again. You will become good at it for two reasons: you like it, and you do it often. Soon, that will have value in itself.

I like arguing, and I love language. So, I became a litigator. I enjoy it and I would do it for free. If I didn’t do that, I would’ve been in some other type of work that still involved writing fiction – probably a sports journalist.

So what should you do? You will find your own niche. I don’t imagine you will need to look very hard. By this time in your life, you will have a very good idea of what you will want to do. In fact, I’ll go further and say the ideal situation would be that you will not be able to stop yourself pursuing your passions. By this time you should know what your obsessions are. If you enjoy showing off your knowledge and feeling superior, you might become a teacher.

Find that pursuit that will energise you, consume you, become an obsession. Each day, you must rise with a restless enthusiasm. If you don’t, you are working.

Most of you will end up in activities which involve communication. To those of you I have a second message: be wary of the truth. I’m not asking you to speak it, or write it, for there are times when it is dangerous or impossible to do those things. The truth has a great capacity to offend and injure, and you will find that the closer you are to someone, the more care you must take to disguise or even conceal the truth. Often, there is great virtue in being evasive, or equivocating. There is also great skill. Any child can blurt out the truth, without thought to the consequences. It takes great maturity to appreciate the value of silence.

In order to be wary of the truth, you must first know it. That requires great frankness to yourself. Never fool the person in the mirror.

I have told you that your life is over, that you should not work, and that you should avoid telling the truth. I now say this to you: be hated.

It’s not as easy as it sounds. Do you know anyone who hates you? Yet every great figure who has contributed to the human race has been hated, not just by one person, but often by a great many. That hatred is so strong it has caused those great figures to be shunned, abused, murdered and in one famous instance, nailed to a cross.

One does not have to be evil to be hated. In fact, it’s often the case that one is hated precisely because one is trying to do right by one’s own convictions. It is far too easy to be liked, one merely has to be accommodating and hold no strong convictions. Then one will gravitate towards the centre and settle into the average. That cannot be your role. There are a great many bad people in the world, and if you are not offending them, you must be bad yourself. Popularity is a sure sign that you are doing something wrong.

The other side of the coin is this: fall in love.

I didn’t say “be loved”. That requires too much compromise. If one changes one’s looks, personality and values, one can be loved by anyone.

Rather, I exhort you to love another human being. It may seem odd for me to tell you this. You may expect it to happen naturally, without deliberation. That is false. Modern society is anti-love. We’ve taken a microscope to everyone to bring out their flaws and shortcomings. It far easier to find a reason not to love someone, than otherwise. Rejection requires only one reason. Love requires complete acceptance. It is hard work – the only kind of work that I find palatable.

Loving someone has great benefits. There is admiration, learning, attraction and something which, for the want of a better word, we call happiness. In loving someone, we become inspired to better ourselves in every way. We learn the truth worthlessness of material things. We celebrate being human. Loving is good for the soul.

Loving someone is therefore very important, and it is also important to choose the right person. Despite popular culture, love doesn’t happen by chance, at first sight, across a crowded dance floor. It grows slowly, sinking roots first before branching and blossoming. It is not a silly weed, but a mighty tree that weathers every storm.

You will find, that when you have someone to love, that the face is less important than the brain, and the body is less important than the heart.

You will also find that it is no great tragedy if your love is not reciprocated. You are not doing it to be loved back. Its value is to inspire you.

Finally, you will find that there is no half-measure when it comes to loving someone. You either don’t, or you do with every cell in your body, completely and utterly, without reservation or apology. It consumes you, and you are reborn, all the better for it.

Don’t work. Avoid telling the truth. Be hated. Love someone.

Tuesday 26/10/10 - Lin Yu Chun's Amazing and Touching Voice

2010-10-26T22:32:00.003+08:00

Billie Myers - Kiss The Rain

2010-10-25T01:14:00.002+08:00

Hello
Can you hear me?
Am I gettin' through to you?
Hello
Is it late there?
There's a laughter on the line
Are you sure you're there alone?
Cause I'm
Tryin' to explain
Somethin's wrong
Ya just don't sound the same
Why don't you
Why don't you
Go outside
Go outside
Kiss the rain
Whenever you need me
Kiss the rain
Whenever I'm gone, too long.
If your lips
Feel lonely and thirsty
Kiss the rain
And wait for the dawn.
Keep in mind
We're under the same sky
And the nights
As empty for me, as for you
If ya feel
You can't wait till morinin'
Kiss the rain
Kiss the rain
Kiss the rain
Hello
Do you miss me?
I hear you say you do
But not the way I'm missin' you
What's new?
How's the weather?
Is it stormy where you are?
Cause you sound so close but it feels like you're so far
Oh would it mean anything
If you knew
What I'm left imagining
In my mind
In my mind
Would you go
Would you go
Kiss the rain
And you'd fall over me
Think of me
Think of me
Think of me
Only me
Kiss the rain
Whenever you need me
Kiss the rain
Whenever I'm gone too long
If your lips
Feel hungry and tempted
Kiss the rain
and wait for the dawn
Keep in mind
We're under the same skies
And the nights
As empty for me, as for you
If you feel
You can't wait till morning
Kiss the rain
Kiss the rain
Kiss the rain
Kiss the rain
Kiss the rain
Oooooohhhhh
Kiss the rain
Oooooohhhhh
Kiss the rain
Hello
Can ya hear me?
Can ya hear me?
Can ya hear me?

Tuesday 18/10/10 - Lookout For Me...

2010-10-19T00:02:00.004+08:00

I have to say that the world is going upside down and becomes weirder. BB and GG relationships are so common nowadays.

Below is some of the observation that I have made or conversation that I have heard -

1. Two girls are behaving intimately on the train, disregard the other passengers

2. Two guys are dating and one of them made such a request, "Can I hold your hand?"

3. A muscular woman that looks so much like a guy (on the outside) and has been consuming testosterone is seeking love - she wants a boyfriend, someone to love her.

4. Guy keeps long hair and nails, carrying a shoulder bag.

Well, hard to say, one day, I may contribute to such weirdness. Lookout for me...

Thursday 141010 - Pencil and Eraser

2010-10-14T23:51:00.002+08:00

Pencil: I'm sorry!

Eraser: For what? You didn't do anything wrong.

Pencil: I'm sorry cos you get hurt bcos of me. Whenever I made a mistake, you're always there to erase it. But as you make my mistakes vanish, you lose a part of yourself. You get smaller and smaller each time.

Eraser: That's true. But I don't really mind. You see, I was made to do this. I was made to help you whenever you do something wrong. Even though one day, I know I'll be gone and you'll replace me with a new one, I'm actually happy with my job. So please, stop worrying. I hate seeing you sad. :)

I found this conversation between the pencil and the eraser very inspirational. Parents are like the eraser whereas their children are the pencil. They're always there for their children, cleaning up their mistakes. Sometimes along the way... they get hurt, and become smaller (older, and eventually pass on). Though their children will eventually find someone new (spouse), but parents are still happy with what they do for their children, and will always hate seeing their precious ones worrying, or sad.

This is to all the parents out there...

Friday 100910 - I simply LOVE this!

2010-09-10T11:15:00.005+08:00

I simply LOVE this! Hope I was the woman - the lucky one! It's just like "Love Actually".

The most amazing part is the playback that is held in his hands. Cool and touching!

So sweet... I hope I will be fortunate enough to experience that.

Friday 20/08/10 - "Buts"

2010-08-21T00:29:00.001+08:00

I love to talk BUT I talk too much.

I love to joke BUT I joke too much.

I hope to be more organised BUT I am too spontaneous.

I hope to be more focused BUT I tend to be distracted.

I hope to achieve more BUT I dont have enough time.

Too many BUTS! Am I giving too many excuses? I think I am.

Sunday 08/08/2010 - Wedding Vows

2010-08-08T17:58:00.002+08:00

I felt so lazy today that I choose to watch TV; just didnt feel like doing anything. As I was watching, I came across this:

It takes a lot of affinity for two persons to come together to be husband and wife.

Just after that, I went to check out on marriage vows. There were a number of them and finally, I realised, I still prefer the traditional one.

I, (Bride/Groom), take you (Groom/Bride), to be my (wife/husband), to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish; from this day forward until death do us part.

I hope I have the chance to say that. *smile*

Friday 05/08/10 - 记得

2010-08-06T01:01:00.003+08:00

两个相爱的人
如果有了相反的梦
分开以后能记得什么?

是相爱时的惊心动魄
是相爱时的甜蜜时光
是争吵时的摧心刺骨
还是分手时的最后祝福?

江美琪 - 我多么羡慕你

2010-08-02T21:22:00.004+08:00

有时候风太急
禁不住挂念起你
这一刻离我遥远飞行
有时候夜太静
拦不住回忆的心
于是泪
每个夜里如繁星
我多么羡慕你
总可以转身飞远远的
我的爱是你沉重行李
绊住你追新梦的决心
我多么想念你
当时间都失去了意义
穿越思念后等成信箱
让你需要的时候可以投递
告诉我沿途中想与我分享的心情

Maya Calendar - Tzolkin (Reveals Your Personality Trait)

2010-07-25T22:42:00.016+08:00

Personality traits for those born on Sunday 19 January, 1986

Tone: 12 (Understanding)

Knowledge
Teaching
Continuity of Wisdom
The Great Library of Information
Dynamic
Understanding
Ideas
Always changing

This numbers energy is a gift of great capability of retrospection. It is this ability that allows Twelve to connect disassociated parts into a (new) functioning whole. The energy of Twelve is that which presents a new piece of understood information or accumulated experience to be applied. It is the connector; the bridge that brings it all into one beautiful, unified whole... all you have to do is ask. The Twelve frequency contains knowledge; all understanding. People born under this Tone are often excellent teachers without competing for status with their students. Meditate with this Tone to touch upon the enormity of the Mind of the Creator. Tone 12 is the energy of all Knowledge.

Manik - West

Symbolism:

The Mayan name for this day, Manik (mah-NEEK), does not translate easily and is, unfortunately, not useful as a clue to the symbolism of this day-sign. The glyph itself, which appears to be a hand in grasping position, is not suggestive of anything in particular either.

Personality:

The Manik type is peaceful, generous, cooperative, artistic and inspiring. While they are generally placid people, they can also be very bold in speaking up for what they feel to be right.

They can be mentally powerful and, as one would expect, are not easily convinced or swayed from their intellectual positions. Manik people need companionship.

For these natives, community and family are of great importance, but so is their freedom to follow their nomadic instincts. Manik is a sign of participation in the community. Those born under it are often deeply involved with family traditions, and in some cases, socio-political traditions.

Family or community based completely on these elements. Manik types are also very sensual, artistic, and even eccentric. Their aesthetic sense is usually highly developed, and they often dabble in one or other of the arts. Those born on this day-sign are very sensual and sexually inclined, yet are also quite intuitive and very sensitive to the needs and conerns of other beings.

Challenge:

To be free, independent and secure in relationships.

Solution:

To accept and be comfortable with their own individuality, no matter what strange characteristics it may entail. Manik

1-Cib

Beneath the 1-Cib surface personality is a person of strong will, not easily convinced by others. Such people have high standards and ten to hold themsleves "above-it-all" and beyond criticism. They have a deep fear of rejection and are often troubled with guilt. Both of these proclivities have a strong effect on the Cib persons sense of self-worth. Although most Cib people are quite talented or at least knowledgeable�as a result have much to offer to the world�in some cases, they feel overshadowed in life by others.

G-4 (North)

Some people born under the influence of this Lord are teachers, some are healers, and some are over protective parents. Most seem to have a nervous disposition and a need to talk.

They are intense guardians of one thing or another; other people, children, pets. Youth of often a fixation for them; they are drawn to children and perhaps even work with them in some capacity.

Their nurturing instincts are quite strong, and they need to find healthy outlets to express this urge. Their darker side lies in understanding that their nurturing influence can become a detriment in many ways. The communication skills of G-4 types make them excellent teachers. They can be very creative with their thinking, a quality that lends itself to art and writing. On the darker side, they think or talk incessantly and often struggle with ways to turn off their minds. By working as a teacher or communicator, they may be able to turn this tendency into positive activity.

G-4 types have a tendency to scatter their energies and this inclination may lead to being a "jack of all trades but master of none." Mercury is usually strong in the charts of those who are born under this lord, as is an emphasized twelfth house.

Saturday 24/07/10 - Healthy Weight Loss Method, Without Sacrificing Your Favourite Foods

2010-07-25T11:11:00.009+08:00

I am here to share on a healthy way to lose weight. I was attending "Bryan Lao Shi" class and this is something that was shared by his partner, Dr Phua.

This is the secret - Just by having 3 - 4 meal replacement diets per week and 1 - 2 times exercise per week, each causes a loss of 500 calories per day, you are likely to lose 1 - 2 pounds (OR 0.45 - 0.9 kg) per week, isn't that amazing?

Meal replacement simply means reducing the calories of the food you take in. For example, you have Nasi Briyani for lunch, which contains 850 kcal, simply replace it with Tanghoon Fish Ball Soup for lunch, which contains 218 kcal. By doing that,you have reduced 632 kcal per day.

Personally, I experienced it myself, even without what is meal replacement secret - no hype, no fluff and people that meet me nowadays, realise that too. Unknowingly, I was having meal replacement diet for 3 - 4 times a week because at my working place, there isn't many nice food and that was why, I kept patronizing the "Niang Dou Fu" stall; I didn't realize I was losing weight until I weighted myself - I lost 3 kg. I will consider as an overall whole body weight loss because I didn't observe visible reduction in any body areas.

You can simply prepare your own meal replacement or purchase readily available one. To me, it costs about the same. If you want tasty meal replacement, do contact me for more information, I know of something.

Anyway, calories counting is important. Personally, I didnt because I didnt plan to lose weight. But for people that is serious about losing weight, please count your calories and try 3 - 4 meal replacement diets per week. If need help, contact me too.

This is good tool by Health Promotion Board for knowing the calories of food that you consume, especially the local delights.

This is the website of "Bryan Lao Shi" - OMHealth. Do visit if you are interested in people that provide sincere and genuine products. No promotional gimmicks here.

Friday 23/07/10 - Too Happenings!

2010-07-23T23:23:00.003+08:00

Well, it is time to update my life now, after hibernating for quite some time. A number of things are happening now, which I dont wish to comment here but I do need advise on what I should do next. Well, things can go out of control and it is highly possible. I should keep my fingers cross. Please speak to me if anyone to keen. I will gladly appreciate it. *smile*

Saturday 03/07/10 - Happiness is ALL AROUND YOU!

2010-07-03T23:53:00.004+08:00

Sorry audience for not having regular posting. I am kind of busy nowadays; let say for now, I am studying for exam but I decide to sneak out to blog.

Well, I like to watch "Ghost Whisperer" and what is shown today touched my heart. Happiness is all around you and all you need to do is to open your heart to experience it. Sounds easy but not really.

Anyway, I love to listen to love story, especially those that are shared to me by the "authors". Are you the author of your own love story? Do share with me. Thanks...

Monday 14/06/10 - What is Happiness?

2010-06-14T23:22:00.001+08:00

What can happiness be equate to? Money? Love? Family? Frankly speaking, I dont know. I am still seeking happiness.

By the way, it doesnt matter if you are a good girl/boy because when no one appreciates you, you are just nobody.

Sunday 13/06/10 - Dancing!

2010-06-14T00:20:00.001+08:00

Sorry for not blogging recently… Kind of busy and really busy. Anyway, have been going home late from Duke-NUS last Thursday and today. In fact, I love going home from Duke-NUS when it is late, around 10 or 11pm because I am usually the only one that take the particular path to MRT station, and I get to “dance” my way to the station, while listening to songs. These 2 songs get me dancing - 房祖名 & 龚芝怡 - 最好的我 and Colbie Caillat – Lucky. I just love the beat!

石欣卉 - 阿蠢

2010-05-31T00:10:00.004+08:00

他什么样的轮廓把你从我身边给骗走
他什么样的温柔把你从我身边给拐走
他什么样的笑容把你从我身边给调走
他什么样的做作让你最后理会我隔夜的嘶吼
岁月的承诺失去几生执著
被留下的我不想走

Tell Me Why, Tell Me Why
我还在原地寂寞的徘徊我的爱
我的等待垮成了一地错过的无奈
Tell Me Why, Tell Me Why
我祈祷昏迷的我快醒来我的爱
就让它留在未来别让它变苍白
是什么样的依赖让我忘了你不可信赖
是什么样的障碍让我忘了该置身事外
是什么样的病态让我忘了你不能崇拜
是什么样的实在让我忘了要对自尊有个交代
手一方开爱跑到千里之外想赎爱得飘洋过海
Tell Me Why, Tell Me Why
我还在原地寂寞的徘徊我的爱
我的等待垮成了一地错过的无奈
Tell Me Why, Tell Me Why
我祈祷昏迷的我快醒来我的爱
就让它留在未来别让它变苍白

那个八成是我八成是我被虚纵过火
噌经爱过快被风化成残波
让爱想起什么我大声喊奏心跳撑着我
不愿坠落捍卫快乐的我在天国复活

Tell Me Why, Tell Me Why
我还在原地寂寞的徘徊我的爱
我的等待垮成了一地错过的无奈
Tell Me Why, Tell Me Why
我祈祷昏迷的我快醒来我的爱
(错过的都不存在我还有好多的疼爱)

龚芝怡 & 房祖名 - 最好的我

2010-05-31T00:08:00.003+08:00

我不在乎什么天长地久
我只在乎你想不想要拥有
一颗真心和温暖的手
在身後陪你微笑或泪流

我不在乎你下次回来待多久
我只在乎这心动前所未有
我不会走 Coz I Love You So
想给你最好的我就算只是朋友

还想和你做朋友
想念 your big brown eyes
可爱的 lips I wanna kiss
I miss 想一直牵着你的手
但我还年轻心不定又能怎么办

Boy 有什么话开不了口
No worries 我只是用脑想过头
拥有了又想自由自由又想拥有
等待着空逛着有话别保留

他们说刮风的时候
你总选择要一个人颤抖
Guess You'll Never Know
Coz I'll Never Show
为了谁你不自由

我不在乎什么天长地久
我只在乎你想不想要拥有
一颗真心和温暖的手
在身後陪你微笑或泪流

我不在乎你下次回来待多久
我只在乎这心动前所未有
我不会走 Coz I Love You So
想给你最好的我就算只是朋友

信不过别人把你追走
也信不过自己暂时把你拥有
你低头喝着酒别只顾喝着酒
做朋友是保护你最坏也是最好的藉口

我明白要你爱是荒谬的要求
我明白有些默契我必须要遵守
只是你眼眸走漏了一种
BABY BABY 想爱不能爱的哀愁

Hey 好久不见重记得你钟意听
不如不见记得以前和你分享我的担心
烦恼还有我的骄傲
但现在我们之间却变得越来越有礼貌

When we broke up
你的朋友一定拍手说好
现在你身边的他们大概都不喜欢我
但是我还是我我还一样地活
The reason why 我决定离开
There is Only One Reason
Why Coz I know you deserve better and more
没了我大家信不过的那个星座
你一定要好好生活别想太多
为什么我写了这首歌只想用心对你说
I love you and I still do I love you now
But It is just in a different way if I may
Hey Be sure I know you used to love me more (appreciate)
But now as a friend
我知道当我离开世界的那一天
你一定会流泪在我的照片前面
and I d

我不在乎你下次回来待多久
我只在乎这心动前所未有
我不会走 Coz I Love You So
想给你最好的我就算只是朋友

我不在乎什么天长地久
我只在乎你想不想要拥有
一颗真心和温暖的手
在身後陪你微笑或泪流

我不在乎你下次回来待多久
我只在乎这心动前所未有
我不会走 Coz I Love You So
想给你最好的我就算只是朋友

Sunday 23/05/10 - Countdown to Tomorrow 4 Teeth Extraction

2010-05-23T20:43:00.004+08:00

1.30 pm - Went into preparation for surgery.

1.20 pm - Reported clinic again.

1 pm - Reached SDC and was a bit early, went to have a expensive pau and ice milo. Sian...

12.30 pm - Time to go to Singapore Dental Center (SDC)

10.30 am - Morning! Ate noodles for breakfast.

1 am - Good night! Need to be replenished fully before I go for for surgery.

11 pm - Went to grab my favourite bean curb with pearls again. My last supper before my surgery tomorrow. Haiz...

9 pm - Get started to study GRE soon. Dental operation is 1.30 pm tomorrow. Actually wanted to go back to work in the morning but now, feel a bit lazy. Well, I will just get up late tomorrow to compensate the lack of sleep that is to come next night. Haiz...

Wednesday 19/05/10 - Bean Curb with Pearls!

2010-05-19T22:36:00.004+08:00

It is my favourite bean curb with pearls again! I gonna miss the pearls for 3 years! Well, need to eat more now before I ever savour them again.

P.S. 原来从爱一个人到忘记一个人是一件很容易的事；容易到令我觉得残忍。爱是这么的残忍，这么的无情，这么的无奈 - 可是我还是会求拥有一颗爱人和被人爱的心。

Tuesday 18/05/10 - 45% Discount @ Borders!

2010-05-19T19:48:00.003+08:00

Went with my colleague to Orchard today to purchase some books at Borders since they are having sale. Well, grab a bite in a Indonesia Restaurant before heading there. The food is quite good and it is a good experience for me. Well, at least for the next 3 years or so, it is hard for me to go for good food that requires vigorous biting etc. I like the food, just that my colleague complained that the food is getting more expensive as compared to the past. I need to eat more before I lose more weight because I think I will have a REALLY HARD time eating next week.

Meaningful Quote #2

2010-05-10T11:26:00.001+08:00

Never search your happiness in others, it will make you feel lonely. Search it in yourself, you will feel happy even if you are alone.

Meaningful Quote #1

2010-05-08T18:45:00.001+08:00

If you cant be a pencil that writes someone's happiness , then try to be an eraser to erase someone's sorrow.

Saturday 24/04/10 - Mourning...

2010-04-25T00:34:00.002+08:00

Sometimes, I really feel that I do need someone but because I dont have that someone now, I tend to mourn for a while; can be a short or a long while. Well, cant afford to stay in mourning state for too long. My life is at cross-junction now; I need to make a decision that can have major impact on my life. If you were to ask me, will I still be working in the next 3 months, frankly speaking, I dont know. I cant plan that far. I may have to give up something. Well, too early to say and to worry. I shall take a baby step at a time.

Tuesday 20/04/10 - Quick Update of Myself...

2010-04-20T23:12:00.005+08:00

16/04/10 - Last Friday, went to National Dental Centre (NDC) to have a consultation on braces. The verdict is: My lower jaw is quite in; my lower teeth cant catch my upper teeth. As a result, I need to put braces. I have to take out 4 teeth; 2 wisdom teeth from the bottom - to prevent them from pushing my adult teeth and cause them to be more crooked, and 2 adult teeth from the top - to create space for my front teeth. Tooth extraction is $2000 (can be paid completely using Medishield) and braces is $4000 (upfront $1400++, follows by monthly installment of $200, for 12 months). Haiz... I will be on MC for 1 week after extraction. Basically, I cant eat because my mouth will be too swollen to open. It is a hour surgery, on local anesthesia (LA). Initially, I was told I need general anesthesia (GA). I rejected that and decided to go for LA since the doctor said it should be fairly easy to take out mine, based on X-ray. However, talking to a couple of people that had wisdom teeth extraction experience, they actually went for GA. I hope I will die from pain (aftermath) and be traumatized by what the doctor is going to my teeth during the surgery; you dont feel the pain during the surgery but you know what is going on, with massive bleeding at the same time. I cant imagine and I dont dare too.

17/04/10 - Went to participate in a research and got paid $15. After which, went to meet Jie Hui to Suntec for dinner. Wanna go Marina Barrage after dinner by walking but somehow, we realised we cant walk there from Esplanade, need to take bus. Oh well, we sat by the Esplanade area and talked. One of my favourite places to hang out... Btw, I love to walk and explore new places in Singapore.

18/04/10 - Attended a seminar in the afternoon and somewhat, it widens my horizon and changes my prospective about what I can do. I am glad that I actually went. Perhaps I shouldnt pursue a Phd blindly just because I need to. I have so many choices and I still can earn as much as a Phd qualification, given that I only have an Honours. I hope my Phd application will fail.

19/04/10 - Yesterday's happy feeling spilled over today. Anyway, I went to Lakeside to see a TCM doctor for me sinus. The 2 packets of medicines cost me $50, 1 week prescription. Haiz... She told me TCM can treat sinus completely but not western medicine. It will take 3 - 6 months and with acupuncture, it should be faster. I only purchased the medicine because she needs to poke my face; I am scared. By the way, I need to go back next Monday.

2x/day, powder form, need to mix with water and drink...

2x/day, 6 tablets/x...

20/04/10 - Finally, finally, my first paper is going to be uploaded to PLOS NTD tonight. My name on paper is Moon YF Tay and it is going to stick to me for the rest of my life, at least the same name has to be used when I publish paper. I need to include "Moon" into my birth cert soon.

Tuesday 13/04/10 - I shouldn't be too independent!

2010-04-13T23:01:00.003+08:00

In the past, someone told me this, "You are too dependent." Now that I have learnt how to be independent, my colleague told me this, "Singapore guys dont like girls to be too independent." Am I wrong?

Guys, you all have to know and understand this - Girls choose to be independent because they have no choice. If I had a choice, I would choose to be dependent. Have to be independent and enjoy being independent are 2 different things; I dont enjoy being independent but I have to be independent because I have no choice.

Monday 12/04/10 - Must be a GOOD girl that guy loves...

2010-04-12T23:25:00.003+08:00

It is NOT sufficient to be just a GOOD GIRL, must be a GOOD GIRL that GUY LOVES...

Saturday 10/04/10 - 打还是不打?

2010-04-10T14:55:00.007+08:00

Well, the scenario is: 是男人提出分手的。

明知你不会打来，却想你打来。 - 这就是女人吧。
明知你会打来，却不想你打来。 - 这就是男人吧。

I guess the reverse is true too; 是女人提出分手的。

明知你不会打来，却想你打来。 - 这就是男人吧。
明知你会打来，却不想你打来。 - 这就是女人吧。

那些、悲伤的幸福

2010-04-10T14:36:00.010+08:00

　　少年不识愁滋味，为赋新词强说愁
　　
　　一个人总是喜欢用华丽的文字，诉写那过分的悲伤
　　
　　总是在不经意之间回想起某些人、某些事…然而眼里早已没有眼泪，过多的只能将忧伤藏进骨子里。
　　
　　有朋友曾说在自己身边看不到幸福，走在满是法国梧桐落叶的街道，茫然四顾，周遭尽是来来往往、行色匆匆的陌生人。萧瑟的秋风击打着落叶，在这浮躁的空气里，问卜到熟悉的味道，也无法奢望能有人为己驻足。
　　
　　我曾想，这世上想要幸福的人太多，我们只能列队等待；也许，某一天、某一年，又或者在你离世之时，幸福就那么来了。
　　
　　经常独自一人仰望天空，看着为数不多的星星，那些原本早已消逝的记忆原来一直都在。忽然觉得有些东西注定只属于某一个阶段，也必定会随着时间的流逝，不再回来。
　　
　　现在想来，那些尘封在记忆中的悲伤不也是一种幸福？其实所谓的幸福就是那么简单的事，每个人的幸福都在自己的指尖在某个不经意的瞬间，或许会滑入手心停留，或许会指尖缝溜走。可是不管怎么样，它都那么近的在你身边停留过，便不再有不甘…
　　
　　幸福是个断了翅膀的天使，不能特意的去选择降临的地点。于是，忧伤或者快乐都存在于幸福的不远处。
　　
　　在这略带寒意的秋天，我带着残缺的翅膀降临－人间殇地

Taken from: 有关/关于幸福的文章-美文/散文/故事-情感文章-经典文章在线阅读!

放不开的爱

2010-04-10T14:23:00.001+08:00

四月一日晚，一个人静静地坐在熟悉而陌生的房间，窗外是嘈杂的人群，滴答的车声。时间也不知不觉地在窗外溜走，此时的思念正上演，愈来愈浓，愈来愈鲜，任凭泪水划过脸庞，像断了的弦，找不到音符，奏出了刺耳的旋律。
　　
　　曾几何时，我的感情断了线，脆弱得回不了原点，敞不开最初的期待，释怀不了深深的喜欢，短暂的几天，犹如几十年，一个人总呆呆地躲在无人的角落里收拾那些无人打扫的回忆，之后又是无尽地想念、想念，悲伤弥漫了整个房间，心碎到了极点，泪水已干竭，方知放弃是如此地难。那种滋味真是难以用言语表达，是喜悦？是悲伤？或许是香烟爱上火柴，注定被伤害吧！好想回到他身边，尽管他有那么多的不喜欢，但还是愿意静静地看着他那迷人的双眼，阳光般的笑脸，可时光转瞬，亦无法转身腻在他眼前，如果时光能回转，我一定好好抓住尾巴，把他记住永远、永远！
　　
　　他所期待的梦想，所追求的世界，我无法给予，更无法实现，我就是这么一个平凡的女人。虽平凡，却有一颗炽热的心，懂得爱情是付出，是忍耐，是宽容，是尊重，是盲目，不需要烟花灿烂的瞬间，更不需要来得迟疑去得匆忙的委屈求全，要的是生生相惜、细水长流的爱情。深深明白付出不会等于收获，但我愿意为了仅存的希望，难遇的痴迷默默等待，默默坚守，尽管他有太多的谎言，因为已经找不到来时的路。
　　
　　现已是夜深人静，想念却与时与分与秒地剧增，不知为何，我会那么放不开，那么不能释怀，那么难以忘却。一度地用写作来填满内心无尽地寂寞，无限的伤感，淡淡抹去对他的喜欢，到最后才发现，再华丽的词语，精美的语言也无法堵塞对他深深的眷念，每天的强颜欢笑，每天的闭户不出也无法掩饰内心的落寞，越想忘记，越铭记。
　　
　　也许，我不曾被他了解，一而再的忽略，终于忍不住，无言的诉说，得到的只是他的淡然一瞥，并无波澜，这不是我想要的，犹如刺猬般的态度，看似无懈可击，实乃经不起一丝松懈。也许早该放手，不应做这困兽的垂死挣扎，让人看得不忍，自己也遍体鳞伤。我本是云淡风轻之人，却因你这看似深情实则无情的一举，踏入了沼泽，泥足深陷，或许早在踏入的那一瞬间，忽略了自己本身的呐喊。如今，明白这道理，也为时已晚，心万般痛楚，却无力疗伤。看似慵懒悠闲的坐在电脑前，却是身体虚脱无力到了极限，眼神还依旧如此赤裸裸的望着他的照片，久久不能回转，此时的心复杂到了极点，亦到了极限。
　　
　　当我转身的一刹那，天空下起了毛毛细雨，我走在雨中，昂首望天，脸上，早已不知是泪水还是雨水。唯一知道的，就是在千万个雨滴中，只有淋湿自己的那一滴才是雨。此时深深明白，不是我活在遗憾、抱怨里，不能忘记，而是他始终不懂我的悲哀，不明白我内心的孤寂。

Taken from: 有关/关于幸福的文章-美文/散文/故事-情感文章-经典文章在线阅读!